Are you tired of dating immature men who are only interested in sex, have no clue how to treat a lady or spend too much time hanging with their boys? If so, perhaps it’s time for you to date an older man. Even if it’s only for a short time, the experience you will gain will be priceless. Once you know what it’s like to be in a mature relationship, you may decide to never date men your age again. At the very least, you will be better prepared to choose more wisely when it comes to selecting Mr. Right. Before heading off to the nearest golf course, upscale bar or online dating site, read these tips on how find the right silver fox for you:
1. Make sure he’s a good fit.
Instead of making sure you’re a good fit for him, make sure he’s a good fit for you. You may feel you have to fit into his world since he’s older, wiser and set in his ways. By doing this, you’ll be doing yourself a disservice. If you’re not compatible, accept it and move on. You’re too young to settle for someone who isn’t right for you.
2. Don’t assume he’s going to use you.
Although some older men treat younger women as trophies, not all of them do. Just as you’d do with a younger man, choose wisely. Pay attention to the way he’s treating you and the language he uses. This will tell you a great deal about his intentions.
3. Make sure he’s not the jealous type.
For the most part older men are not going to be as insecure as younger men. They understand that you have a life of your own to live, just as he does. However, if he is prone to jealousy or possessiveness, this will be a problem (as it would be in any relationship). You’re going to have different energy levels. It’s a biological fact. Therefore, there are going to be times when you want to go out with your friends and he wants to be at home. If he is unable to accept this, move on to a more confident man.
4. Don’t try to be his kids’ mom.
They already have a mom. You aren’t playing house. These are real people’s lives. Think of how you would feel if the shoe were on the other foot. You wouldn’t want some other (younger) woman trying to take your place in your children’s lives.
5. Make sure you’re on the same page.
Know his stance on commitment and children. He may be ready to settle down and start a family, while you are just getting started as an adult and have no interest in settling down. Or, he may be at the stage in his life where he has already been married, has kids and has no interest in ever getting married again. Get everything out on the table earlier than you normally would.
6. Keep an open line of communication.
If you get into a long-term relationship with an older man, you will need to keep an open line of communication. The two of you are in different stages of life. He is already matured and pretty much settled. However, you are rapidly growing and changing. You’re coming into your own and finding your place in the world. Your goals at the beginning of the relationship may change. Some of the changes will be, in part, due to the knowledge and experience he has shared with you. It’s extremely important to communicate your needs, desires and goals every step of the way, especially if they affect him and your relationship.
Saying that age doesn’t matter when you’re dating is ludicrous. Of course it matters or it wouldn’t be such a big deal. Dating an older man can be a wonderful experience if treated with dignity and mutual respect. There’s no reason a relationship between a younger woman and an older man can’t work out as long both people are happy and enjoy each other’s company.